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We have a 4 year old daughter who is constantly sooky and teary. Will cry at any given moment, with no good reason - even when we try to play with her, she bursts into tears. We need advice.....

Jane ...
Answer: Perhaps she's going through a social and emotional stage of her development when she really does need more reassurance from you. If this is a change for her and she's not normally like this it may be worth considering if there's anything else which is different about her both physically and emotionally. Is she well? Do you feel her development is within the normal range for a four year old? Do you feel her vision/speech and hearing are all fine? Is she getting enough sleep and food? Some nutritional deficits such as anaemia can manifest in a child's behaviour, so it may be worth keeping a food diary for a couple of weeks and seeing in an objective way if she's getting a healthy and nutrient rich diet. Is there anything else which is going on for her or in her life which you feel could be upsetting her. Have you asked her? Some kids are just more "fragile" than others and it's in their personality to be a little more emotional and prone to tears. Perhaps this is something which she will outgrow with time or maybe she's just one of life's gentle souls who don't adapt so well to change and need a little more nurturing. I'm not sure. But if you're worried about any other aspect of her development then perhaps a behavioural and developmental assessment would be useful. Check with your CHN or local community health centre for access and referral pathways to the appropriate health professional. Cheers Jane
Answered: 03 Mar 2013