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My 3 yr old daughter has a bad habit of trying to interrupt her father or I while we are trying to talk to her or tell her something. For example we were trying to tell her to settle down as it was time to get ready for bed but because she had something t

She can be very stubborn and doesn't know when to stop. She will keep going until she gets what she wants.

Jane ...
Answer: At three she knows what she wants but you as her parents know what she needs. These two factors can be very different. She's biologically designed and compelled at this age to try and challenge you and "push your buttons". The key is to be consistent and fair with her and try not to get too caught up in what she's trying to say to you. Give her lots of positive attention when she's behaving well and appropriately and a little ignoring goes a long way when kids aren't behaving well. Speak with your partner about how you're going to manage her when she's not in earshot, so you're both clear about how to be consistent with her. If she suspects that one of you is softer than the other she's likely to target that parent in order to get lots of lovely attention and what she wants. She's just going to have to learn how to share you, and honestly if she's the oldest child and always been the recipient of lots of lovely adult attention from both of you she's only doing what she's learned to do. Does she have a baby sibling in the house and is yearning for some attention? If this is the case then some more one on one fun with her may help. And importantly, if she learns that whining and protesting gets her lots of attention and eventually what she's after then this is a reward and positive payback for her behaviour. So be careful about how and when you respond to her. Best Jane
Answered: 10 Apr 2014