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Hello! I have a daughter who is 3 years and 3months old who was toilet trained for a few months until recently. She does go to the toilet about once maybe twice a day. Other than that she wets and poos herself and then tells me that she needs to go after

I continuously ask her if she needs to go and also take her but she had no interest whatsoever. I am completely frustrated that I have to continuously change and wash at least three times a day, if not more!!! I don't want to go back and put her into nappies. I get that at times she is too pre-occupied playing or she may be upset and she does. She just wees on the carpet, in the car,when we are out....and I don't know why?! I am expecting a baby next month and thought this May happen then, not now! Please help,it's more than just the odd accident now!!

Jane ...
Answer: Hi, I agree with you that reverting back to nappies would be shame. You can only go forwards to be honest and keep doing what you are. Are you involving her in the changing, have you tried a reward/sticker chart for her and given her lots of praise when she does use the toilet. There is often value in not asking the child if they want to go but physically taking them to the toilet every two hours or so and getting them to sit there with a book and a bit of quiet time so they have the chance to go. She's not doing this to be naughty but as you say, she's distracted and busy and it's probably all lost some of its novelty by now. You're the one doing all the hard work. Stick with it, she's probably just at a temporary stale mate with the whole process. Make sure she can access the toilet easily; perhaps you need to investigate getting a toddler seat or steps or even getting her to use a potty? Be patient and kind with her and take her to the toilet with you when you go so she really does get to have all the benefits of role modelling what's involved. Best Jane
Answered: 20 Jul 2014