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My 2.8 year old has started playing up on purpose. We discipline him with the time out mat which has worked but he now plays up on purpose and when we go to discipline him he just laughs at us. He dosen't listen which is getting worst and worst as he th

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Answer: Hi, 2+ year olds generally have some forms of behaviour issues. This is age appropriate and completely normal. The trick is to decide how you're going to manage him and be consistent and persistent. There's often a short term improvement in behaviour and then regression back to previous playing up. If he's developing normally and you've no reason to think he's got any hearing, vision or speech issues then it's reasonable to manage him with the general, age old strategies. These include; ignoring what doesn't matter, praising him when he's behaving well, picking your battles and focusing on what's important, being clear and concise when you tell him what to do and work consistently with your partner so your toddler knows that you are 100% unified. Perhaps at this age he's too little for a "naughty mat". If it's not working then it's reasonable to try something else. Planned ignoring, saying "no" clearly and firmly when he's doing something wrong and removing him from the general area may work. Try to stick with a consistent and predictable routine with him. Bedtimes, day time naps, three meals and day and x 2 snacks all make for a typical toddler daily routine. It may be worthwhile for you to take him to your CHN just to have him weighed and measured and to talk with her about your toddler's diet. Iron and protein is very important at this age and stage and more commonly than we think, iron deficiency anaemia contributes to behavioural outbursts. Best Jane
Answered: 31 Mar 2016